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Why All Advice is Relative

But That Doesn’t Mean It’s Bullshit

The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself.

– Oscar Wilde

I like to write about self-improvement, life lessons, and self-help. I also write about depression, anxiety, and mental health. Some of these articles I’ve written are in the form of listicles and “how-to’s”, which I know many people don’t like.

Everything I’ve written about has been from personal experience. I’m not basing my opinion on medical facts or studies, although I have referenced both in some articles. My writing is based on my perspective of what has helped me. And in some articles, I give “advice” to help others who may be in the same situation.

But what everyone who is reading these types of articles needs to know is all advice is relative. It is relative to your situation. And it may not work for you.

However, it doesn’t mean the advice is bullshit.

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“Advice” given on here by me, and just about everyone else, is for the public in general. Unless an article is written specifically about you and has your name in big bold letters, it’s general advice.

The information given in these articles may not apply to you or your situation. In fact, I would say most articles won’t apply.

So there is no reason to get upset about something which may not apply to you. If you see something you don’t agree with, it’s not an attack on you. The author does not have you in mind when he/she is writing about whatever it is.

Don’t take it personally.

Just about everyone who writes self-improvement or self-help articles are writing about what has worked for them and from their experiences. Everyone is different and has viewpoints unique to them.

So there is no all-encompassing explanation for all of life’s ills or anything else. I have found what works for me and want to share it with others. But, you have to find what works for you. And it may not be anything in any of my articles or anywhere else.

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I’m not a professional anything. I am not some all knowledgeable self-help superstar who believes I am right all the time. I don’t claim to be either. There is nothing in any of my articles which states you must listen to me for I am the all knowing one!

In fact, I get a lot of things wrong. But so does everyone. Figuring out our mistakes and fixing them is how we learn and grow.

I’m also not close to having everything figured out. No one is. If we did, there would be no need for self-improvement articles, anti-depressants, therapy, or any other coping mechanism.

Take my and everyone else’s “advice” with a grain of salt. But don’t dismiss all self-improvement or self-help articles as unhelpful, useless, or a waste of time.

Because you don’t get to decide how beneficial these articles are for others.

You don’t get to decide how others feel. You may decide they don’t have value for you, but that does not mean they aren’t bringing value to other people. It also doesn’t mean the information given in the article is bad advice.

If there is some blatant error which may cause problems, that is different. But most aren’t written in that manner.

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Life takes experimentation. If you are trying to change aspects of your life, you will have to find out the best way to do that for yourself. And everyone has an opinion on how you should do it. Including me.

But that doesn’t mean I’m right. It doesn’t mean you should only listen to me and no one else. I’m fallible. So are you.

I’ve yet to have a day where I didn’t make a mistake. My streak is alive and well and will continue until my death I’m sure.

Take away what advice works for you and ignore the rest. It’s your choice how to live your life and no one else can decide how to improve it but you.

But I know what is written in these articles are helpful to some, including me. Don’t dismiss or belittle them.

Because all of us need help at some point in our life. The one self-improvement article you dismiss today may be the one who saves someone tomorrow.

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